Дорогие читатели, особенно молодые мамочки! Недавно я получила письмо с вопросом, который решила напечатать здесь. Ниже печатаю свои короткие размышления. Надеюсь, что разговор продолжится.
Question:
Hey, how are you? I really want to learn on how to be a better mom. What would be some advice that you can give on parenting in a Godly way? If you could maybe change some things what would it be? Through the different stages that the kids go through what was the best way to disipline them? I am really having doubts that a belt is the best answer. Thank you for your time. May God bless you in your ministry.
Answer:
I wish all could be said in this short message, but I will only respond about the major keys to a successful motherhood.
I believe that the only sustaining and strengthening factor is God himself and His Holy word. Another strong factor in successful parenting is the prayer. What sustains me and keeps me going every day is prayer and reading the Bible. In Him all things are possible.
When I come to God in prayer, I ask Him to fulfill whatever area I have failed in today. I ask Him to make me strong and consistent when it comes to raising and teaching my children. I admit to God, that without Him, I cannot do anything right. I praise Him for my family, for each child. I do tell Him that I am tired, but I want to keep doing what He prepared for me to do.
Most of all, I ask God for wisdom to raise my children the right way. I believe that my children should learn to love God, love people, learn to study themselves through the lens of God’s Word, love the Word and be prepared to serve Christ.
I understand that to discipline a child, you, as a mom have to learn what your child responds to. Some children respond to just verbal reproach; whereas others need spanking. You need to figure out what works with your particular child. Be careful not to discipline when you are angry. Tell him that you love him so much, that you need to punish the child. Tell the child that God put you (mom) in charge of raising kind and obedient children. Let the child understand that by punishing the child, you are being obedient to God, who commanded you (parents) to discipline children (Кто жалеет розги своей, тот ненавидит сына; а кто любит, тот с детства наказывает его. Прит.13:25), while they are young and there is hope that they will improve.
You are probably already practicing all above stated principles. That is wonderful. Just be consistent with what you promised your children. They will quickly learn when you are serious and when you just say that you will punish, but forget or change your mind about it.
Final words – devote all your time to the children! Especially while they are little and more importantly when they are of school age and teenagers.
In conclusion, let me encourage you that being a mother is a very important and victorious job. You, as a mother, sacrifice so much for the sake of raising Godly children. "Ибо не неправеден Бог, чтобы забыл дело ваше и труд любви, которую вы оказали во имя Его,..Евр.6:10. God is very well aware of your devotional parenting. You will not be left without an abundant fruit , expressed in your children’s’ lives later on.
May you be blessed!!!
Stay in touch.
Sincerely, MG